Financial Abuse

If your partner tightly controls your money, or spends it selfishly and recklessly, you might be experiencing financial abuse.

Financial abuse includes:

  • Making you account for every penny you spend
  • Making you ask for money when you need it
  • Limiting you to an allowance
  • Not letting you have a bank account
  • Keeping you in the dark about family finances
  • Denying you and the children basic things you need (like food, clothes, heating or bus fares)
  • Spending money you don’t have on going out, alcohol, drugs, gambling or luxuries
  • Stopping you from getting or keeping a job
  • Making you work long hours to support their spending
  • Stealing from you
  • Taking your money and blaming you for it
  • Running up debts in your name fraudulently (without you knowing)
  • Making you take out loans under duress (against your will)

keysIf you can’t make ends meet, life is a daily struggle. You might lie awake worrying about how to pay bills or how you’ll feed the kids. You might feel unable to leave your partner because they control all the money and you have nothing. Or you might feel crippled by debts and unable to move on with your life.

It is very common for people experiencing domestic abuse to have less control over their finances and to be left with debts when the relationship ends. Sheffield specialist projects working with domestic abuse survivors find that their clients often have:

  • Rent arrears from previous tenancies and current tenancies.
  • High interest credit lending (from shops and door stop lenders)
  • Less income than they should because they aren’t claiming all the benefits they are entitled to

Get free financial advice

In Sheffield there are several Neighbourhood Advice Centres offering free debt advice (details below). Advice Centres can help people prioritise which bills should be paid first (such as rent/mortgage, gas, electric, water, council tax and CCJs) and can negotiate repayments with credit companies.

More detailed advice around finances – guides

You Can Afford to Leave
A financial guide for women and children experiencing domestic violencefrom Refuge

Dealing with Debt
Sheffield Debt Support Unit debt advice

Neighbourhood Advice Centres in Sheffield with Debt Advice Workers

Castle Advice Service – 275 4578
207 Duke Street S2 5QP

Darnall & District Advice Service – 243 4400
626 Staniforth Road, S9 4LN

Firth Park Advice Centre – 296 0005
9 Stubbin Lane, S5 9JG

Foxhill & Parson Cross Service – 245 0287
522-524 Wordsworth Ave

Heeley Advice Centre – 258 8751
Heeley Green Ctr., 344 Gleadless Road, S2 3AJ

Hillsborough & Area Advice Service – 2852020
Proctor Place, Hillsborough, S6 4HF

Manor Rights & Advice Service – 2642576
300 Price of Wales Rd, S2 1FF

Sharrow Citizens Advice Bureau – 2583322
416-418 London Road, S2 4ND

South-East Sheffield Citizen’s Advice Bureau – 248 0043
77 Queens Street, Mosborough, S20 5BP

Tinsley Advice Centre – 243 2720
120-126 Bawtry Road, S9 1UE

Woodseats Advice Service – 258 4384
714 Chesterfield Road, S8 0SD